Breaking Up With Joshua
As my relationship with Charles blossomed, I eagerly told my classmate about it, and for some reason, she revealed this to Joshua; who as a result, ended our relationship. Even though I felt bad for hurting him, I was relieved in a way since I didn’t have the courage to tell him I was no longer interested in him. I was already head over heels in love with Charles. Charles was a lover of music, a smooth talker, romantic, and the perfect gentleman. He made me feel special; he made me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. His favourite artiste was Tuface Idibia and he never got tired of serenading me with his songs. I ended up falling in love with Tuface Idibia’s music as well.
Dating Charles ❤️
After school everyday we took long walks, talking and laughing about everything there is to talk about. When we weren’t strolling, we were at his place. It was amazing to say the least. It was my first time being with someone who made me feel this loved. He made me feel good about myself and its an experience I will not forget. As usual gossips started flying around. Oversabi mummies started reporting to my mother. She came home one day and asked me about it. “Who is the Calabar boy you’re always with?” “At your age!’ ” you want to disgrace me!” Bla bla bla. My parents seized my phone in a bid to chop off my overgrown wings. But it didn’t stop anything. It only made me go out more to spend more time with him. I’m the most stubborn of all my parents’ kids. I didn’t even ask for the phone back. They gave it back to me of their own accord.
Joining My School
A few months later, he joined my school. This was in ss3. I was elated. Even though we saw in school, we still continued our hangouts after school. The proprietor knew about our relationship and hated him as a result. He punished only him for an offence every other person was committing. One time he gave him a week suspension for not knotting his tie. Even though there were other students without ties or waistcoats. My proprietor just hated him. I’m not really sure why.
Breaking Up 💔
We were together for two years. Our relationship ended after our final SS3 NECO Exams. He fell in love with someone else. And like me with Joshua, he didn’t have the courage to tell me. He just ghosted me for two straight weeks. His phone number was switched off and whenever I went to see him at his place, his siblings kept telling me he wasn’t around. After the two weeks elapsed, he came out of the blues filled with apologies. He said he got a new job that was really tiring and he was unable to make calls bla bla bla. It all sounded strange but I forced my self to believe him. Our relationship was already strained by then but I forced my self to remain hopeful. I kept believing in the uniqueness of the love that we shared. While he was away, I had just begun a friendship with someone else. But as soon as he came back, I threw it all away and hurried back to him.
Trying hard to Make It Work
Regardless of how hard I tried though, the relationship was no longer what it used to be. It was now strained, forced. Eventually, I had to let go after I realised he initiated a relationship with a classmate of mine. It hurt more because this classmate of mine was someone I didn’t really get along with. I left for university almost immediately I found this out and I had to change my phone and sim card so that it was difficult to keep in touch with him. My first semester was a miserable one because I was still heart broken and sad. I tried to get back together after my first semester but it just didn’t work out because he wasn’t interested. After months of feeling sad and empty, I eventually moved on. A few years later though he apologised and tried to get back together but at that point, I was in a much better place and my feelings for him had died. Charles was my first love and he was an amazing partner; so romantic and wild. I’m happy I knew and loved him.
His Death 💔
In March 2019, Charles left this world. There were such nice stories from his friends about how amazing he was and how much of a true friend he was, and I cried because I could relate. He was indeed amazing. I heard the news of his demise the evening before my white wedding. I was confused to say the least, I was heartbroken and tried hard to stay happy and unbothered during my bridal shower and white wedding but a few days later the reality of his demise dawned on me and I allowed myself to cry. Months before his demise, Charles sent me loads of messages asking to meet. I’m not sure why I declined but when I heard of his demise I was so filled with regret. Maybe I should have maintained our friendship regardless of our past.
Charles was an amazing person and I’m glad I knew him. I had written the first part of this story in October 2018 unaware of what 2019 held and never expected this story to end this way. I am however, consoled by the fact that he’s in a better place and he left a huge impact in the lives of those he left behind.