They say; “bear it”, “overlook it”, “be patient”, “you shouldn’t say such”. This kind of talk is what leads to depression or madness…
Please, my loving friends, speak up. If you’re hurt, talk, air your views, be outspoken, if you don’t, your oppressor would believe it’s okay to oppress you. So speak out. Stand up for yourself. As long as you feel oppressed, you feel insulted, you feel trampled on, then it’s not okay, and it’s okay to speak out and stand up for yourself. Shun tradition, shun culture, shun society, just be happy. No one on this earth, except God, can really make you happy, no one can sacrifice everything they have for you, only “Chukwu”. So he’s the only one you should answer to. Yes don’t insult anyone or take anyone for granted, respect everyone, but stop allowing yourself to be insulted or trampled upon, because you’re special, and you should be highly respected.
It’s timidity that makes a person bear insult, fear too. I remember how one time in my place of work. My boss fired a staff. Now this staff told me he did nothing wrong, and no reason was given as to why he was fired. This got me really worried. So my boss can wake up one morning and decide she doesn’t like my face, she can just tell me to go, that she’s tired of seeing me. I got really scared. I know how long I waited before I got this job, this job was precious to me. And so I decided to work hard, to do my best, and ensure nothing goes wrong. As a result, I stopped talking. I agreed to everything my bosses said, I was always so afraid to confront them, i took the blame even for things that weren’t really my fault because I didn’t want to seem proud, by arguing with my boss. It was so bad.
After a few years I got tired. What’s the worst that could happen? I’ll get sacked? No worries I’ll find something better. Who even wants a robot-like staff that can’t air her opinions? who wants a timid staff? Who wants a staff that is always responsible for all the troubles that occur? So I stopped.
If it’s not my fault, I’ll tell her it isn’t my fault, and how I even worked hard to prevent it from happening, if what she’s doing isn’t going to be effective, I’ll politely contribute, I’ll gladly open my mouth and talk without being afraid that she’ll pick offense, and if she does, I’ll politely let her know that she read a wrong meaning into whatever I said.
Life is really short, I can’t now waste it on negative feelings and energy.
I will be happy to the fullest, I’ll live my life bold and strong, feeling beautiful and positive. So anything that tries to take this from me has to be cut off, regardless of age or position, regardless of what society thinks.
Same thing with dealing with parents, there’s this talk that your parents can curse you, that you need their blessings to be successful in this life, the Bible even says honor you parents so that your days will be long.. Does this now mean you should constantly be abused by your parents and do nothing about it? Or it now gives them the right to disrespect you and insult you? Please! Honor your parents yes, but some parents are abusive, if you can, please leave home before you hit them or insult them in annoyance.
This life is short, live it courageously and beautifully. Throw away anything that limits you, or stops you from shining. Live with courage and passion. Throw away timidity and fear.